Been a bit out of touch. Working on a screenplay for a local indie director. Trying to find time to finish my history book.
Even more... Rebecca and I have decided we are no longer romantic partners. Yeah, but you know, it's surprisingly unsurprising. We've been together almost 25 years, but we've found ourselves more and more best friends and less and less romantic lovers. So last week, we finally made it official. We are still legal domestic partners (we own a house, car and kitties together) and she is still the one who makes legal/medical decisions on my behalf. I suppose after 25 years of deep, close friendship, one doesn't simply untangle.
And then there's my puppy, kymutt
. Yes, I have a boyfriend. He is not the cause for the above notice, though I suppose the evidence helped me see the above more clearly.
I love him. I can't help it.
Yes, the great whore of babylon has found love. Luckily, he is a longtime LJ fan, so he knows better than to think we'll have a monogamous relationship. He's a pretty randy bugger himself, so... no worries. Right now we're doing the long distance relationship and GOD is that AWFUL!!! But that's another post...
I have lots to write about... little time. Maybe it's time I got back on here...
I don't get fucked often.
Hell, I don't do a lot of fucking, for that matter. I mean, I love to fuck and I still have a lot of lust for the act, but I guess lately I find it an extremely intimate act that takes a lot of energy and focus and body positioning (I have long thighs), and so I don't do it a lot... just on occasion... with the right guy.
But I digress.
I don't get fucked often. A lot of guys don't immediately see me as the "please fuck me" type. For some reason, a lot of guys (straight as well as gay) think you are either a top or a bottom... period. This to me is silly. Personally, I love giving and receiving pleasure in equal portion. Sometimes there is, underneath the top/bottom mentality, a kind of sexism involved... you know, "tops are most valued because they are the men, and men are more valuable than women, thus bottoms are womanly and less valuable." Seriously, I think that's an unconscious thing for many guys... lingering sexism in the bedroom. It's absurd, of course, since both actors in gay sex are men, so the argument is bogus there, and everyone deserves the same kind of respect whether top or bottom.
But I digress.
I don't get fucked often. But I've been fucked enough to know when I'm being fucked by someone who knows something about fucking. And last weekend, I got fucked (twice) by a guy who really, really (no, really) knew what he was doing. I mean, I thought I knew something about fucking, but I was wrong. This guy was extraordinary.
Now first off, let me be clear, it wasn't because he had a huge dick or because he was particularly nasty talking (which, you may know, turns me on) or even that he lasted forever. These things are fine, but they aren't what made this guy an incredible top. This guy was an incredible top because he was extraordinarily attentive to the act.
First of all, he noticed (through touch, mostly) that, as a guy who doesn't get fucked often, I'm a little tight. So he massaged me a little and, between that, he dived in and gave me the rim job of my life... paying attention, not just to the hole, but to the whole area... licking the back of my thighs and my balls and my cheeks, loosening me up and relaxing me. He was very enthusiastic and by the time he was done, damn I was ready for anything.
Next, we tried a position that should have worked well, but because my knees were heavily stressed, it just caused me to tense back up... so... that wasn't going to work. So he patiently tried another tactic, which wasn't good for him because his cock tends to bend slightly and the way I am made, it didn't fit well. So I turned over, on my other side, and began the slow push in.
He patiently moved short strokes in and out, feeling the tense and release inside me... until that magic moment when I felt my body just give in... And he felt it, too. And we fucked like rabbits in heat.
Now listen, I know it doesn't sound spectacular... but think about the last time you got fucked. Did you BOTH come away feeling really good and fulfilled? Was it all about the slam and the bam and none of the prep time? Fucking is supposed to feel good. That's the way it's supposed to be. So many guys (at least in my experience) think fucking needs to be a painful, only slightly fulfilling experience... but it doesn't. As long as you communicate what's working and not working, take the time to both be ready and "fitting" each other well. You see, in a way, men need foreplay and attention, too.
Fucking is like ballroom dancing (yeah, now there's an image for ya!). Each partner is required not only to "get theirs," but to be aware of the other as well. Beautiful ballroom is when two bodies are sync'd up... aware of each other's moves and changes in mood. Without this awareness, there's nothing but shin splints and torn tendons left and a very ugly situation.
A simple observation. One you probably didn't need to hear. But one that was on my mind. Mostly because of my friend... who may be reading this now. His attentive technique was hot and perhaps even, the best fuck I've ever experienced. Thank you, J.
Yeah. Yeah. I know. Long time, no see.
Well, ain't that the way life is? You know I've been thinking of my LiveJournal... wondering if I shouldn't be writing more than I am... Cheating on LJ with FB... Sigh. I'm such a fucking MAN.
Okay, look. I'm going to try to keep this going again. I make no promises ('cause I break 'em too easily). But I miss you, LiveJournal. And I got some ideas to share.
So, nice to see you... Stay tuned.
When I jack off, I tend to use a kind of over-the-tip approach. I've not met many other men who do it this way.
I mean, jacking off is one of my favorite sports. The only thing that keeps me from it is another man enjoying my cock in other ways.
But no one taught me how to do it. I hear stories of brothers and cousins teaching each other to jack off surreptitiously in a barn or in the bunkbed, but that never happened for me. (God how I wanted it to! My brothers experimented with friends - or so I've heard - but they never shared their expertise with poor little Glenny.) I did jack off in front of my step-brother once and that was cool, but by then I'd already figured the whole thing out.
Truth is, the first time I did it consciously I was nine years old and after my first little dry orgasm I was convinced I'd invented it. I even had a secret name for it (though for the life of me I can't remember what it was). From that point, I was hooked. I jacked my little boy cock every day, quietly in the bathroom. At least I hope it was quietly. I couldn't tell. I was too fully engaged in the enormous sensations wracking my body to know if I was quiet or not.
Not much later, my brother had the unfortunate experience of running into the kitchen one day with cum in his hand saying, "Mom! Mom! I think I'm dying!" and this led to "The Talk" from our (very brave) parents. I learned that my invention wasn't actually mine after all, but that it was healthy and normal and that I shouldn't do it to much (uh... is thirteen times in a row too much?), but it's okay to do it.
Then one day when I was ten, at the end of my little humpty-dumpty, the white stuff came out. And whoa! what a difference it made. Orgasms felt more... I don't know... finished. It was messy, alright, and that led to some very clever innovations in cum cleaning. What kind and color of cloth stains, what ones don't. How to keep toilet paper from shredding all over your dick and fingers. And finally discovering the joy and pleasure of the easiest, most efficient method of cleaning up (As Auntie Mame says of pickled rattlesnake, "It's pure Protein!")
Anyway, what was I talking about? Oh yeah. The over-the-tip approach. I tend to grip my cock with the fingertips and thumb surrounding the shaft with my palm over the tip of the glans. Like a penis train poking into a tunnel made of my fingertips. I like that method best. Really gets me off. I've tried the full shaft grip (nice bicep workout and I love watching the cum shoot) and the two-fingertips under/thumb on top approach (a bit too dainty for me, but a nice change of pace and the control makes it great for edging). I've tried the overhand grip, which really is nice and from the reaction of others must be fun to watch (like whack-a-mole without the whacking device).
But over-the-tip is boss for me. Good grip, nice full contact, and in the end, most of the cum ends up in your hands, not all over the floor.
Dan Savage says that you should switch up the ways you masturbate so that your cock doesn't get used to a specific way of being used. That's good advice. I try to switch it up and have fun (what else is a cock for?) But old habits die hard and with the over-the-tip approach, I can be sure my cock won't die hard, but fully satisfied.
So, go ahead, jack it, you sexy puppies. It's good for you. And Daddy approves.
Yeah. I posted the second part of the erotic story I put up a week ago. The orgy continues.
If that sort of thing gets you hard, stop by Erotica by Mutantbearman
and check it out. The second part is called "Cabana 2: Second Cock."
For those of you into hot, steamy sex...
I just posted a new erotic story called "Cabana" on my blogspot, Erotica by Mutantbearman
. Looks like the bearman character is in Costa Rica and has been chosen for special treatment by a cabana full of naked men... and it could be too much for one story to hold...
Hope you like it (if you like that sort of thing).
Miss ya. (Really do.) See ya soon.